Two female friends of mine, from Las PInas and Pasig, are now broken-hearted following their breakup with their lovers of several years. Reason: ANOTHER GIRL!
So allow me to divert from my usual stuff and remind you, boys and girls, on why you should be FIRM AND DECISIVE, and I mean immediately, once CHEATING STRIKES your relationship.
As much as possible, END THE RELATIONSHIP on the spot once your partner cheats on you.
No matter how long you’ve been together. No matter what hellish or earth-shaking trials you’ve gone through. Whether you caught him in or out of another woman’s bed.
CALL IT QUITS!
The cheating is SOILD PROOF that your partner no longer cares for you. Your feelings are no longer important. You’re just another ordinary person, not the special someone you used to be!
By cheating on you, your partner has thrown to the wind everything you’ve been through together. Especially everything you’ve done to keep the relationship strong and happy.
In other words, everything about you HAS BEEN IGNORED by your partner. What could still be a better, and SANER, reason to go on with the relationship? Think about it, AS HARD AS YOU COULD.
Easier said than done? I’ll still agree. Bur consider these:
If you forgive your cheating partner, there’s NO REAL GUARANTEE it won’t happen again. REGARDLESS of how and what kind of promises will be made to you!
Be REALISTIC, guys. As they say in showbiz, MAGPAKATUTOO KAYO!
Forgiving may be divine, as the Bible says. But when it comes to love, eight out of 10 times forgiving FURTHER EMBOLDENS cheating partners.
Your partner will definitely think “Oh, so jI can get away with it with just a few teardrops and an hour or two of sweet nothings” There goes not only the respect for you but more importantly, YOUR DIGNITY.
If you’ll give your cheating partner a second chance, just be sure of two things: You can take, and endure, the repercussions of being looked down on as a SUCKER and you’re tough enough to withstand a more painful form of cheating that will come next.
Otherwise, you’ll only have two places to end up in: the HOSPITAL (regular or mental) or the GRAVEYARD! 30
Good article nemesio. I'd like to add that when i hear women talk, they always want to place all the blame on the man. Think about it, the man is going out with a 'Woman'. There are as many immoral women out there as men. They will try to steal a husband if possible.
ReplyDeleteI have no intention on trying to take the responsibility off the man, it's just that I see it as immoral on both sides.
nasa nature na lalaki ang mag cheat,to prove that they are real man..mens nature..
ReplyDeleteahhh........ loving someone is a wonderful feeling, but sometimes we tend to love the wrong person at the wrong time and at the wrong place. We become a victim of a world we dont want to be in and everything seems falling us apart from the emptiness and burden we felt, its like a mountain has fallen in ur chest and we cant move on from its weight. Sometimes we feel guilty about the past but whats done is done and we should learn from our mistakes. be brave my dear friend......the choice is yours...........
ReplyDeleteNemesio is the name of my late paternal grandfather, but I strongly disagree with your hypocritical statements. To me it looks like it comes from a very narrow-minded person. You scapegoat men with controversial relationships with other women as cheaters, worse than criminals as the later gets a trial. An investigative effort has to be explored for possible reasons why it's happening. Hopefully it paves way for a reconciliation. It is a complicated and delicate problem that needs careful solution, more so when kids and grand kids are caught in the middle. Sacrifice is the key to resolve problems of this magnitude. And sacrifice can be attained if both parties know how to swallow their pride. By the way, both sexes cheat. Not just men. And for some men having 2, 3 or 4 women is not considered cheating depending on the society they belong. Some of our privilege Muslim brothers usually the ruling class are still practicing that. Even the geriatric inhabitant of the Playboy Mansion is shared by three happy young women. Big deal! CHEATING is a very forgivable offence to preserve relationship and the sanctity of marriage . Our Lord Jesus Christ never decried a cheat. He forgive all sinners. Now who are you to judge your fellow men?
ReplyDeletefor me: once a cheater always a cheater... so why give him a chance to cheat you again and again...
ReplyDeleteThis instant thing, I believe is not good, especially if the couple accepted and practiced it. What I mean, is the contraceptive mentality, the use of pills and condoms, is slowly eroding what real love is. Real love is patient, understanding, careful, sympathetic, and can sacrifice or control oneself for the sake of the love one. So if the couple practice the natural way, let's say if they are not ready yet for another blessing of life, they need to be patient, sacrifice, and abstain. But they are used to do it instantly (anyway pills or condoms are readily available, then any one of the couple who may be sick and cannot do it anymore, will naturally find another man or woman to satisfy the instant thing. For me, it's one of the causes of cheating. Just my two-cents, Boyet.
ReplyDeleteStriker, sir boyet! As what they say " pag nalawayan na ng iba, ibigay mo na sa kanila, marumi na yun".. lol.. I really hate cheaters, once is enough and no more two which is too much!
ReplyDeleteCHEATING is another word which means a person loss his/her interest about you. It could also means a revenge for someone you cared the most and because your feelings is hurt your tendency is to get back with him/her so that the hurt you feels deep inside your heart will go back to him. If someone cheats, it is a major change in your love life, You lost the respect and love to the person. Let us assumed that the two of you get back together, but i tell you, it will be different because the heart that was broken and was repaired is no longer the same. There is the scar that proves this person provided you with a broken heart. But don't be sad, because letting go is one of the solutions in order to start a new you, a new beginning of a life and love that will bring you back the happiness that was lost from a cheating love one. So be brave.
ReplyDeleteYes it would be over, but I wouldn't waste my time on the girl. All of my anger would be directed towards him.
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